10 Tips to Boost Self Confidence

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Why We Need Self Confidence?

Confidence is your basic prerequisite for every new personal or professional success. If you have low self esteem and lack self confidence, no matter how hard you try, you will never achieve your goals. In a world where everyone is desperate for something, it can be difficult to remember the things that make you unique and special.

Self confidence is the ability to believe in yourself or your ability regardless if those around you disagree with your point of view. It's something that most people struggle with, and a common theme in my coaching sessions.

Self confidence affects most areas of our life. It can affect how confident you feel talking in public or even how confident you feel with a small group of friends. We need self confidence to apply for jobs and to put yourself forward for possibilities you may otherwise steer clear of. Low confidence can cause you to become fearful, to become self aware and embarrassed socially.

Some signs you may have low confidence are persistent self doubt, avoidance of certain situations for fear of feeling awkward, problems speaking confidently, dismissing your own needs or not recognising what they are, or disregarding or staying away from beneficial opportunities you would like to seize, but find something is preventing you. For example you may find yourself turning away good job opportunities simply because you believe you are unable to do the job.


Why Do People Have Low Self Confidence?

It can take just one event to knock someone’s self belief. Perhaps you had difficulties as a child and friends or siblings made you feel detrimentally about your abilities. Often we become affected in this way and don’t even realise it. In some cases consistent knocks to your confidence can affect you profoundly, perhaps a relationship breakup and a few failed dates have left you avoiding romantic opportunities you would have formerly taken.

Much of the time we simply don’t recognise how much life can take its toll on our emotional well being and stop us from moving forward as you start to care only about how other people are judging you.

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10 Tips For Self-confidence

I wanted to share 10 simple tools and techniques to instantly improve your mindset and self confidence so you can start to feel good about yourself.


1. Find someone who empowers you

Finding someone to help you build your confidence can be a great way of increasing self-confidence. Find a person you trust who believes in you and will give you positive feedback, whilst knowing the reality of what's possible for you to achieve.

With the right mentor or coach with the qualities you are aiming for and you might find that it's not as difficult as you thought.


2. Look Like You Know What Your Doing

Fake it till you make it. Even when we're not feeling confident, act like your self-confidence is high by walking with a straight back, standing tall and smile this will make you feel more confident.


3. Change Your Perspective

Your attitude is everything when it comes to confidence. It is how you see the world. When you build confidence, you have a better understanding of what you want and what you are capable of.

Your outlook has a big influence on your self confidence. Most of the time, it does not change overnight. It requires a conscious effort to change your perspective. When you are able to see the potential in yourself and your abilities, that is when you build self-confidence.

Instead of focusing on what has gone wrong for you, focus on the things that have gone right for you both now and in the past. Try writing a gratitude journal so you can find three things that went well during the day and why they made you feel good.


4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

If you compare your self-worth to that of another person, you will be constantly filled with negative thoughts. You'll always feel low and worthless because someone else is better or more successful than you in some way.

Ask yourself: "Am I fulfilling my own purpose?" "Are the things I do bringing me joy?"

If you compare your self-worth to that of another person, you will be constantly filled with negative thoughts, and your self-worth will remain low. Be specific and ask yourself, “Am I engaging my own purpose?” or “Am I motivated to complete my mission?”


5. Use The Right Words When You Speak

If you say positive, encouraging words to yourself and others, then it will have a positive effect on your self-confidence. If you would like more confidence in your abilities or skills, the best thing for you is to encourage those qualities by speaking positively about them.

Start telling yourself the truth about yourself and your abilities. This doesn't mean you cant embrace your limitations, it can empower you to realise where your weakness lies.


6. Eliminate Negative Thoughts From Your Mind

Negative thoughts are harmful to your self-confidence, so eliminate them or change them as quickly as you can. Replace a negative thought with a positive one and concentrate on the good things in your life.

For example, instead of thinking, "I’m not that smart," try to think, "I’m going to do my best." It's easy to focus on what is wrong, but finding, and focussing on, the good things will make you feel more confident.


7. Stop Apologising and Forgive yourself

When you apologise or make excuses for something you do, it's like telling yourself that the negative is more important. You can't be self-critical and confident at the same time. Start to believe in your own abilities. Even when we need to put other people before ourselves it doesn't mean we should stop believing in our own worth.

Adopt a mantra and repeat it every day. It can be anything you want, but choose something that is meaningful for you such as "I am enough" or "I deserve this". Don't measure yourself against other people - we're all different and unique.


8. Do the Things that Scare You

Doing the things that scare you takes away the fear and builds your confidence and giving you an opportunity to get used to doing uncomfortable things in anticipation for future challenges. This could be speaking up at a meeting or trying a new activity where you normally feel challenged.

If we stay in our comfort zone you may regret all you could accomplish.


9. Use affirmations

Affirmations are a good confidence booster when used correctly. They should be used as a tool not a weapon to beat yourself up with, they are meant for self-love and understanding that you can start to believe you can do anything if you put your mind to it.

The way we talk to ourselves is so important and it can have a really good or bad impact on our overall mood, mindset and self confidence in general.


10. Ask for Help

When you are with a group of people it’s easier to just sit back and let others take the lead. In the early stages of development it can be intimidating to step up and try something new for fear of looking stupid. Rather than letting yourself be intimidated by others, reach out and ask for help whether that's with a new skill, or with a new task at work.

Can You Help Self Confidence Issues?

If you need some help then you may want to look at my BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE PROGRAMME so you can start to real believe in yourself. I offer personalised sessions and will guide you through every step of your journey so you can achieving your full potential.

I look forward to hearing from you so I can help you live your life with calm, confidence and clarity.

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